An Anglican Catechism (Expanded Version)

Question 193: How do you grow in love?

Question 193: How do you grow in love?

I grow in love by abiding in Christ, receiving His love through Word and Sacrament, obeying His commands, and daily yielding to the Holy Spirit. As I meditate on God’s love for me, repent of selfishness, and seek the good of others in truth and humility, His love is formed in me. Love grows through prayer, suffering, service, forgiveness, and a life centered on Jesus. (John 15:9–10, 1 Thessalonians 3:12, 1 John 4:11–12, Philippians 1:9)

Full Scripture References​

“As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love.” — John 15:9–10 (BSB)

“May the Lord cause you to increase and overflow with love for one another and for everyone else, just as our love for you overflows.” — 1 Thessalonians 3:12 (BSB)

“Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God remains in us, and His love is perfected in us.” — 1 John 4:11–12 (BSB)

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight…” — Philippians 1:9 (BSB)

Expanded Explanation of Catechism Question

Love grows in me as I remain in Christ and walk in the Spirit. His love is not something I produce by effort alone, but something I receive and then reflect. I grow in love by continually remembering God’s mercy toward me, being shaped by His Word, partaking of His grace in the Sacraments, and practicing love in the everyday choices of life.

Love matures when I choose to serve others rather than myself, to forgive instead of retaliate, to speak the truth in gentleness, and to carry burdens not my own. It grows when I pray for those who hurt me, share with those in need, and pursue peace even when it costs me something. The Holy Spirit teaches me this love and enables me to live it.

Canon Dr. Joel Scandrett (Trinity School for Ministry) writes, “We don’t grow in love by trying harder—we grow in love by drawing nearer to Christ. The more we are conformed to Him, the more His love becomes our own.”

Bishop Julian Dobbs (Diocese of the Living Word, ACNA) explains, “To grow in love is to grow in likeness to Jesus. His love was truthful, holy, courageous, and sacrificial. When the Church loves like that, the world sees Christ.”

The 1662 Book of Common Prayer guides us in this growth through the daily confession of sin, the hearing of God’s Word, and the prayers that ask for grace to “love thee with all our heart, and our neighbor as ourselves.” The Collect for Quinquagesima Sunday prays, “Send thy Holy Ghost, and pour into our hearts that most excellent gift of charity.”

J.C. Ryle wrote, “Love is the truest evidence of grace. A man may have knowledge, zeal, or even gifts, but if he does not grow in love, his soul is not prospering.” (Holiness, 1877)

Archbishop Foley Beach (ACNA) has said, “We grow in love by walking closely with Jesus. His Spirit softens our hearts, expands our vision, and teaches us to love the unlovely with His love.”

Growing in love glorifies Christ because it reveals the heart of the Gospel—a heart that gives, serves, and lays itself down in truth and grace.

Early Church Fathers On Catechism Question

St. Augustine of Hippo (354–430 AD): “Love grows as we turn from self to God, and from pride to humility. The more we see God’s love, the more we are compelled to love as He loves.” — Homily on 1 John, 7

St. Basil the Great (c. 330–379 AD): “Love is perfected by practice. Let us begin with small deeds of kindness, and God will increase our hearts.” — The Long Rules, 2.3

St. Gregory the Great (c. 540–604 AD): “When we love those who are difficult to love, we are becoming like Christ. Love is not proven in ease but in trial.” — Moral Reflections on Job, 25.45

St. John Chrysostom (c. 347–407 AD): “Do you want to love more? Then serve more. For love is not learned in theory but in action.” — Homily on 1 Corinthians, 33

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